If you find that other people don’t respect your time – for example, they consistently show up late or not at all, or appointments change at the last minute, take a look at how you honor your own time. Do you re-arrange appointments or find yourself waiting for others even though it’s not convenient for you, yet you don’t say anything? Do you allow yourself time to do things that you really want to do, or do you always put everybody else’s needs before your own?
The more you respect yourself and your time, the more others will too. Your time and your energy are precious resources – when you respect them, you’ll find that you always have more.Tweet
Take time over meals – having just returned from a trip to England, Spain and France, one of the things I really noticed is that they don’t rush meals. Meals are not eaten on the run or in front of the television. Instead, meals are a time for getting together with family and friends and are enjoyed.
When you sit at a table and really take time to eat and enjoy a meal with family and/or friends, it is possible to enjoy your meal much more, and you don’t feel so full because you’re taking your time. There, when you go out to a restaurant, you are expected to be there for the evening. That table is yours for as long as you want it. You don’t feel rushed and the server will not bring the bill until you ask for it.
It’s a much more relaxed and healthy way of being. You may not be able to do it all the time, but I think it’s worth exploring if and how you can incorporate this way of being into your life. It’s much more enjoyable and I think has great health benefits as well.Tweet
Appreciate your challenges – we learn the most from our challenges. If you look back on some of the biggest challenges you’ve experienced in your life, you can see what you learned about yourself and how you grew from the experience.
Every difficult experience and challenging person has something to teach you. When you know this it is easier to accept and to forgive so that you can learn what you need to learn and move on more quickly.
When you can appreciate your challenges you will experience breakthroughs like never before. This energy will propel you forward, so you no longer have the experience of feeling stuck.Tweet
A day of doing nothing allows you to renew and re-energize. It allows you to take care of your body, mind and spirit. When you return to your normal life after such a day, you have renewed energy and insights. You’ll find that you accomplish so much more.
If you feel guilty when taking time for yourself in this way, then it would be helpful for you to explore where that comes from. Being on the go all the time without giving yourself time off with nothing to do is not productive, it’s draining.Tweet
When you take the time to do this you will often see that things are going better than you thought they were or that you’ve accomplished and made more progress than you realized.
It’s a simple thing, but it can make a big difference.Tweet
Give truthful feedback – how often do you hold back and not say what you really want to say because you’re afraid of how somebody will react? We all do it – we say yes when we mean no, tell someone everything is okay when it isn’t, and generally say and do things so that other people won’t be upset with us.
When you hold back in this way it blocks your energy. You are not being truthful with the other person or with yourself. Try being brave and saying what you really want to say. You don’t have to say it in a hurtful way. Think of the most positive way you can say it.
When I feel something is going to be particularly difficult for another person to hear, I often start with something like “this feels really uncomfortable for me to say,” or “this is really difficult for me to say because I feel it might upset you, but I respect you enough to tell you the truth…”
The most important thing is the energy behind what you’re saying. If the energy comes from a place of love and support, then you will be helping the other person as well as yourself. If it comes from a place of fear and doubt, the opposite will be true.
Practice giving honest, truthful feedback in a positive way – there is great freedom in being truthful.Tweet
Play more: just because you’re an adult, it doesn’t mean that you should stop playing. Making time for play every day will boost and balance your energy, helping you to feel great and, believe it or not, ultimately helping you to accomplish more.
Think of things you used to do as a child, can you do them now? What other things can you do for play?
The more you allow yourself to play, the better you’ll feel and you’ll develop a deeper sense of love and trust for yourself just because you’re allowing more play into your life.Tweet
Don’t follow the crowd: just because most people do something or like something, doesn’t mean you should too. It’s okay to stand out from the crowd and do something different. It doesn’t matter whether other people don’t understand why you don’t want to follow them. If it doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t do it.
When you follow the crowd rather than owning that you want something different, you give your energy and your power away. Be yourself.
Only do what feels right for you, regardless of what others say or do.Tweet