lbinns on July 27th, 2014

Give truthful feedback – how often do you hold back and not say what you really want to say because you’re afraid of how somebody will react? We all do it – we say yes when we mean no, tell someone everything is okay when it isn’t, and generally say and do things so that other people won’t be upset with us.

When you hold back in this way it blocks your energy. You are not being truthful with the other person or with yourself. Try being brave and saying what you really want to say. You don’t have to say it in a hurtful way. Think of the most positive way you can say it.

When I feel something is going to be particularly difficult for another person to hear, I often start with something like “this feels really uncomfortable for me to say,” or “this is really difficult for me to say because I feel it might upset you, but I respect you enough to tell you the truth…”

The most important thing is the energy behind what you’re saying. If the energy comes from a place of love and support, then you will be helping the other person as well as yourself. If it comes from a place of fear and doubt, the opposite will be true.

Practice giving honest, truthful feedback in a positive way – there is great freedom in being truthful.

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lbinns on July 20th, 2014

Play more: just because you’re an adult, it doesn’t mean that you should stop playing. Making time for play every day will boost and balance your energy, helping you to feel great and, believe it or not, ultimately helping you to accomplish more.

Think of things you used to do as a child, can you do them now? What other things can you do for play?

The more you allow yourself to play, the better you’ll feel and you’ll develop a deeper sense of love and trust for yourself just because you’re allowing more play into your life.

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lbinns on July 13th, 2014

Don’t follow the crowd: just because most people do something or like something, doesn’t mean you should too. It’s okay to stand out from the crowd and do something different. It doesn’t matter whether other people don’t understand why you don’t want to follow them. If it doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t do it.

When you follow the crowd rather than owning that you want something different, you give your energy and your power away. Be yourself.

Only do what feels right for you, regardless of what others say or do.

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lbinns on July 4th, 2014

admin on June 30th, 2014

Connect with your house – your home is a reflection of you and of everything that is going on in your life. The energy in your home is directly connected to you and your state of mind and state of being.  So it can either support you or sabotage you. When you connect with your house you allow it to support you.

Connecting with your house means knowing how you feel about every aspect of it, knowing what you are surrounding yourself with and working to enhance the energy everywhere.

Rooms that you don’t use represent parts of your life that you are not giving energy to. Accumulated clutter represents chaos and stagnation in certain areas of your life. Parts of your home that you don’t like represent parts of your life that you don’t like. Things in your home that you don’t need, use, want, or love represent you holding on to the past and to what is no longer relevant in your life – it also keeps you stuck.

When you see that your home reflects you, and that changes you make in your home help you make changes in your life, you allow it to support you in all sorts of ways. It can be a very powerful tool for growth and change – if you let allow it to be.

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lbinns on June 23rd, 2014

Be impeccable with your word – from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Remember that the energy you put out comes back to you, multiplied. So it’s important to be aware of what you say to others and to yourself. The words that you use have energy and they have consequences.

This also applies to things that you say you’re going to do. If you tell someone you’ll do something and you don’t follow through, for whatever reason, the energy that you’re sending out is that you can’t be trusted. You will then attract people into your life who can’t be trusted. If you are unable to follow through on something you said you would do, let the person know as a sign that you respect them and that you respect yourself.

Pay attention to what you say and remember that the energy you put out through your words comes back to you.

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admin on June 16th, 2014

Be responsible only for your energy – when you are highly sensitive and empathic, you feel other people’s energy. You may feel their pain, their anxiety, or even their anger. Often, you can take this energy into your own system without being aware of it. When you do this it affects you in many ways and you may even feel that it’s your own.

You can only be responsible for your energy, you cannot be responsible for someone else. You can help, support and be there for someone else, but taking on their energy serves no-one. It just harms you.

If you find yourself feeling lethargic, or you have unexplained physical or emotional challenges, or even if you just feel stuck, overwhelmed, unfocused or confused, it’s possible that you may have taken on other people’s energy. It’s important to recognize when this has happened and be willing to release it.

For those who are highly sensitive, empathic, and/or intuitive – if you’re energy is low, you’re feeling lost or unfocused or just feeling like you’re not making the progress you want to make, it may be because you’ve taken on other people’s energy.  I’ve learned a new energy clearing technique that I’m incorporating into my Powerful Breakthrough Sessions. I can help you release the energy that’s holding you back so that you feel better and start to see progress again. I can also show you how to protect yourself from taking on other people’s energy in the future.

To introduce this new technique I’m offering a coupon for $50 off a Session from now until the end of June. Go to. to schedule a session and use the code ENERGY when you’re checking out.

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lbinns on June 9th, 2014

Know your values – what is most important to you? What is so important that if you did not have this in your life you would be totally miserable? Is it freedom, joy, family, accomplishment, personal growth, recognition, leadership, fun?

There are probably many things that are important to you, but there are a few that are not just important, they are vital. It’s most helpful if you are really clear on what these are. When you are clear, then you can easily dismiss anything that does not fit with your values.

For example, 2 of the most important values for me are personal growth and freedom. I want to learn and grow from everything I do – that’s why I share stories about what I learn from my tennis matches, I use them to learn about myself, to improve and grow. Its more than just recreation for me. Freedom is also important, so I now know that I don’t want to be tied down to having to do the same thing every day, or working in the same place, or attending weekly meetings, or having to answer to someone else for what I do.

When you’re clear on your values, then it’s much easier to say no when things come up that affect them. Put your energy into the things that are most important to you and you’ll feel energized and fulfilled.

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lbinns on June 2nd, 2014

Release the need to rescue others – it can be tempting, when you’re a naturally helpful person who cares about others, to be the one who jumps in to the rescue whenever there’s a problem. Although it may seem that rescuing someone is helpful, actually the opposite is true. It doesn’t truly help them and it doesn’t help you.

Of course if someone is in an accident, they may need to be rescued. What I’m talking about are everyday situations. You can be there to help and support someone else but trying to rescue them takes away their power and depletes your energy, so nobody wins.

So if you’re tempted to fix a problem for someone or to jump in and rescue them, perhaps you could ask yourself what you could do to help empower them to resolve their own challenges and issues instead. If you keep rescuing someone, they lose the ability to take care of themselves.

This also works the other way round – release the need to be rescued or to expect someone else to rescue you. Take responsibility for yourself and allow others to support you, but don’t feel you need to be rescued.

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lbinns on May 14th, 2014

One of the things I’m very sensitive to is noise. In particular, I find things like lawn mowers, leaf blowers, and power washers are very irritating. It’s not just the sound, I feel the vibration in my body and in my head. These noises typically go on for some time, which makes it worse. In other words, it’s not just a sound that comes and goes.

For example, the house I’m living in right now backs onto a small park. Last week they were doing lots of maintenance work in the park, so all day, every day for the whole week I heard the constant sound of lawn mowers, weed whackers or leaf blowers. Since I work from home, it was extremely challenging.

Ear plugs help a little, but since I feel the vibration of the sound, they don’t help a lot. I’m learning to do as Eckhart Tolle suggests and release my inner resistance to the noise (see quote below), although I have to say I don’t find it easy.

This is yet another example of how you can use any situation as a spiritual practice. This particular one is a work in progress for me.

“Any disturbing noise can be as helpful as silence. How? By dropping your inner resistance to the noise, by allowing it to be as it is, this acceptance also takes you into that realm of inner peace that is stillness.” – Eckhart Tolle, Stillness Speaks

I’d love to hear from other highly sensitive people on how you manage noise.

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