Change the rules – what rules do you have that subconsciously run your life? You might think you don’t have any, but I bet you do. These are things that, if you really examine them, don’t make a lot of sense and are not serving you. You’re probably not even aware of them, but they dictate what you do and how you do it.
For example, I’ve recently been considering (and working to change) the rules I have around exercise. One of my subconscious ‘rules’ is that I should exercise every day, or that if I go to an exercise class I should go to that same class every week.
What ends up happening is that my schedule varies, so I may not be able to make the same exercise class each week, or if I work out at home, I may not be able to do it at the same time each day. So instead of just doing what I can when I can and adjusting my schedule to fit what I can do – I end up doing nothing. So my ‘rule’ is setting me up to fail.
I notice that I don’t have this same rule when it comes to playing tennis (although there are others) because I will play as often as I can whenever I can and sometimes it’s once a week and sometimes it’s 5 times in a week.
Think about the ‘rules’ you have that are not serving you and may be setting you up for failure (like mine). It’s time to change the rules!
I’d love to hear some of your rules – feel free to share them here. Sharing will help us all to identify rules that are not serving us.Tweet
Make your bedroom your personal sanctuary – according to Feng Shui principles your bedroom is the most important room in your home. It is the room that is closest to you and the one that has the biggest impact on you.
No room affects your energy like your bedroom. So it’s important to have calm, nurturing, supportive energy there. Make sure you love everything that’s in the room. Eliminate clutter, use calm colors and artwork that you love (and that is not ‘active.’) If possible, don’t store anything underneath the bed and don’t have too many mirrors in the room. Remove the television or store it in a cabinet so that you can close the doors when it’s not in use. Remove family photos and place them in other rooms. The only photos you’ll want in here are those of you and your partner/spouse.
Your bedroom has a big impact on your energy – let it be as positive and supportive as possible.Tweet
Meditation is great for some people, but not for all – some people find it very difficult to stop or slow down their thinking enough to achieve a meditative state. If that’s the case, a guided meditation can be helpful, or meditative music – they give your mind something else to focus on, and so the thinking can stop.
Mindfulness is a great way to stop thought – you simply put all of your attention on what you are doing, or on what you are feeling in your body. You don’t think about it, you just put your full attention on it and ‘notice’. Notice how you feel, notice what you’re doing and how it feels, and so on.
Giving your mind in this way actually energizes you and opens you up to be able to receive the answers you need. Constant thinking drains your energy, and can block you from receiving the answers you need because you’re constantly trying to figure things out.Tweet
Share your challenges – you don’t have to figure everything out by yourself and you don’t have to do everything alone. When you find yourself in a difficult situation, reach out and talk to someone. It could be a friend, a family member or a coach – whoever it is, allow them to support you when you need it.
You don’t need them to resolve the problem for you or even give you answers or advice. You may just need someone to listen – if that’s the case, be sure to let them know that’s what you need because most people tend to want to solve other people’s problems. That’s not what you need. You just need someone to listen and perhaps share some ideas that may help you see things from a new perspective.
When you share in this way, you will release yourself from the overwhelming, all-consuming energy of the particular challenge you are dealing with and you will immediately feel better.Tweet
If you find that other people don’t respect your time – for example, they consistently show up late or not at all, or appointments change at the last minute, take a look at how you honor your own time. Do you re-arrange appointments or find yourself waiting for others even though it’s not convenient for you, yet you don’t say anything? Do you allow yourself time to do things that you really want to do, or do you always put everybody else’s needs before your own?
The more you respect yourself and your time, the more others will too. Your time and your energy are precious resources – when you respect them, you’ll find that you always have more.Tweet
Take time over meals – having just returned from a trip to England, Spain and France, one of the things I really noticed is that they don’t rush meals. Meals are not eaten on the run or in front of the television. Instead, meals are a time for getting together with family and friends and are enjoyed.
When you sit at a table and really take time to eat and enjoy a meal with family and/or friends, it is possible to enjoy your meal much more, and you don’t feel so full because you’re taking your time. There, when you go out to a restaurant, you are expected to be there for the evening. That table is yours for as long as you want it. You don’t feel rushed and the server will not bring the bill until you ask for it.
It’s a much more relaxed and healthy way of being. You may not be able to do it all the time, but I think it’s worth exploring if and how you can incorporate this way of being into your life. It’s much more enjoyable and I think has great health benefits as well.Tweet
Appreciate your challenges – we learn the most from our challenges. If you look back on some of the biggest challenges you’ve experienced in your life, you can see what you learned about yourself and how you grew from the experience.
Every difficult experience and challenging person has something to teach you. When you know this it is easier to accept and to forgive so that you can learn what you need to learn and move on more quickly.
When you can appreciate your challenges you will experience breakthroughs like never before. This energy will propel you forward, so you no longer have the experience of feeling stuck.Tweet
A day of doing nothing allows you to renew and re-energize. It allows you to take care of your body, mind and spirit. When you return to your normal life after such a day, you have renewed energy and insights. You’ll find that you accomplish so much more.
If you feel guilty when taking time for yourself in this way, then it would be helpful for you to explore where that comes from. Being on the go all the time without giving yourself time off with nothing to do is not productive, it’s draining.Tweet
When you take the time to do this you will often see that things are going better than you thought they were or that you’ve accomplished and made more progress than you realized.
It’s a simple thing, but it can make a big difference.Tweet