Did You Choose Your House – or Did it Choose You?

Could it be possible that your house chose you, rather than you choosing it? It’s an interesting thought, isn’t it? After years of working with clients and their homes, I know that we choose our homes for a reason – and it’s not just because we need somewhere to live!

Every house has something to tell us – what do you think this one is saying?

So often people tell me things like: “ever since we moved into this house we’ve had marriage problems”, or “since we moved into this house everything seems to have gone wrong.” Whether it’s relationship issues, health problems, job losses – whatever the problem, your home has a definite role to play in what’s going on.

The same issues can occur with each person who moves into a house. Have you ever heard about a house where people say “everyone who lives in that house seems to end up getting divorced” or “everyone who’s lived in that house seems to have financial problems?” Well, it’s not coincidence.

Even before I knew about Feng Shui, when choosing a house I would always know immediately when I walked into the right one. Many people have the same experience. You look at lots of houses, most of them have the features that you’re looking for, but they just don’t feel right. And then you walk into one and you just know it’s the right one.

I believe we choose the homes we live in based on what we need to work on in our life. Before I studied Feng Shui, i didn’t know that, but when I look back at the various homes I’ve lived in, I can see it so clearly. When my husband and I chose the house we’re in now, I have to say I hesitated. When we walked into this house we both knew this was the right one. We felt it. Yet it had some definite Feng shui challenges that I wasn’t sure i wanted to deal with. I knew that if we chose this house that our relationship would be challenged – it has been. I knew that it might be difficult to find the help, support, and resources that we needed – sometimes it has been. I knew that we would be challenged in different ways – and we have been. I also knew that I had the tools and the knowledge to be able to work through these challenges and apply Feng Shui to the ‘problem areas’ in ways that would help us, if I was up to the challenge.  I was and these Feng Shui solutions have definitely helped us.

Challenges come into your life to help you grow. If you weren’t ready to deal with those challenges, I don’t think they would show up yet. Whatever you’re going through in your life, your home is playing a big part in it.

You see, your home is so closely connected to you, so much a part of you, that it is a direct reflection of everything that’s going on in your life. It’s an outer reflection of your inner world. The good news is that this means you can work with your home to change any aspect of your life that’s not working in the way that you’d like it to. The key to doing this is awareness. You need to be aware of just how your home is affecting you and how you can make sure it’s affecting you in a positive way.

Let me share an example with you. Several years ago, I did a consultation for a couple who were going through such a difficult time that they were on the brink of divorce. The wife called me for the consultation as a last ditch attempt to do something to save the marriage. She didn’t really believe that it would work, but somebody had told her about Feng Shui, so she thought she might as well give it a try.

They lived in a very nice home. It was beautifully decorated and furnished and they liked the house. In Feng Shui, we assess the home in terms of energy. Each aspect of your life is represented in your home, so we look at the various areas (health, finances, relationships and so on) to see what is happening energetically in each of these areas that could be impacting you in your life. In this particular case, it was interesting to note that all of the areas in the home that related to their relationship had energy problems. None of the other areas had issues, just the relationship areas. Each of the areas in their home that related to their relationship had either very draining energy or stuck energy. It was very interesting and the first time I had ever seen so much that was wrong in one life area.

It was as if the house was shouting out to everyone that their relationship needed some particular care and attention. Not surprisingly, when I asked about the previous occupants of the house, I was told that they had sold the house because they got divorced. Definitely not a coincidence.

Fortunately, the couple agreed to follow through with the recommendations I made to correct the energy problems. They weren’t sure if it would help, but what I had explained to them seemed to make sense and they wanted to give it a try.

I’m happy to report that they are still together several years later, although they sold the house and moved into a different one. With their new Feng Shui knowledge they chose a house with strong relationship areas this time.

I believe the lesson here is not to underestimate the impact your house is having on your life. Treat it with love and respect. Your home represents you. Love your home, keep the energy moving and flowing and ifyou’re having life challenges – look to see how your home may be contributing to them.

Here are some very basic things that you can do that will help:

• Clear the clutter – any areas of clutter stop the movement of energy, creating stagnation – this will negatively affect some aspect of your life. Just think about where in your life you feel stuck and you’ll know that the clutter is affecting that.
• Let go of anything that you don’t need, use or love or that has negative memories and associations. It will hold you back and keep you stuck.
• Surround yourself with things that you do love, things that nourish and support you and make you feel good.
• Keep your home clean and in good repair.
• Your bedroom should feel like your sanctuary, your favorite room in the house. It should be peaceful, calm and relaxing.

What do you do if the area that represents your relationship is in the garage? Simply find something to put there that represents love – such as this hanging mobile of red hearts.

If you want to learn more about your home, the different areas and how they affect you and, how to correct problem areas, become a member at www.harmonyinandout.com. Join us on tele-seminars and you’ll learn the specifics of how to make your home work for you, rather than against you.

We welcome your comments – do you have a story to share about your home? We’d love to hear it.

Tags: Feng Shui, Home, Relationships