Have you ever felt resentful about something? Most people have, even if they’re not aware of it. Resentment is one of those feelings that can sneak up on you if you’re not careful. For example, you can start off doing things for people because you want to be helpful, but then you find that people take advantage of you, expecting to do things that perhaps you don’t really want to do. You find yourself in a difficult position and you start to feel resentful.
Before you know it, resentment can turn to anger and frustration, which can eat away at you. If you start to express any of these feelings of course, people can’t understand what’s wrong with you. The resentment can spread, so that you start to feel resentment when things don’t go the way you want them to, when people don’t treat you in the way you expect them to, when even the slightest thing doesn’t go right or when you think that people don’t respect your time.
The danger is that once this starts you attract more and more situations and reasons to feel resentful. You may not understand what is happening, you just feel that people are not treating you fairly, but in reality, we teach people how to treat us and rather than people doing something to you, the situation you find yourself in is one that you created yourself.
So how can you deal with resentment and turn things around? One of the first things is to recognize what’s happening. It’s important to recognize and acknowledge exactly how you feel before attempting to do anything about it. If you feel angry and frustrated, acknowledge that.
The only way to change feelings like these is to first become aware of them. Once you’ve acknowledged how you feel, it can be helpful to use writing as a tool to help you. First of all, start a list of all the things that you feel resentful about. You might be surprised at just how many things there are – particularly if these are feelings that you have suppressed or denied for a long time.
Sometimes just the simple act of bringing these feelings into your awareness can be enough to change them. Take a look at your list and identify things that you can change. For example, if you feel resentful because people often waste your time or ask you to do things that you don’t really want to do, start learning how to set boundaries to respect your time. Turn off the phone to avoid interruptions, check e-mail just twice a day. When someone asks you to do something, learn how to say no. You’d be surprised how easy this can be once you’ve done it once or twice.
The thing to remember always is that this is something that you created, so the good news is that you can change it. Don’t let feelings of resentment lie dormant. Acknowledge them and you will be making first step towards changing the pattern.
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