I’m sure you’ve noticed that life does not always run smoothly. Things don’t always go the way you want them to. One fact of life is that there will be times of sadness, grief, pain or anger. What matters most is how you deal with these situations and emotions when they arise. Since it’s unrealistic to think that you can avoid them, it’s helpful to learn some techniques that can help you get through them.
It is true that people often think they are not supposed to feel the so-called ‘negative’ emotions. So they stifle them, avoid them or just feel that they should think only ‘happy’ thoughts. But none of these techniques work – they simply push the feelings away where they continue to affect you, building up over time and draining your energy until the result is depression or health problems or some more serious life situation.
When something happens to you that causes you to feel angry, sad, unhappy, frustrated, etc., there are several things you can do that will help:
Acceptance – first of all it is most important to accept how you feel. Rather than trying to stifle or eliminate the feeling, as uncomfortable as it may be, you must acknowledge it and acknowledge what has created this in you. When you accept it and allow yourself to feel it fully, it loses its strength. The first step to letting these feelings go is to allow yourself to feel them, not to try to deny them or not feel them.
Journaling – writing about what you’re feeling, about the situation and the circumstances around it can really help you to move past it and to understand it on a deeper level. This is a wonderful way of tapping into your sub-conscious, of moving beyond the immediate situation and how you feel about it and uncovering what’s behind it.
Look for the lesson – every situation, particularly those that are uncomfortable, offer opportunities for growth. When you actively look for the learning experience, rather than simply focusing on the negativity of the situation, not only can it help you to move beyond it faster, it helps you to move from feeling like a victim of the situation, making you feel more empowered.
Ask for help – don’t try to get through it by yourself. Talking to others helps to release the burden of how you feel. If you have the opportunity to talk to someone who has been through a similar situation you can learn from their experiences. It can also be most helpful to consult Healers, coaches, counselors or therapists – anyone who has the skill and knowledge to help you on a professional level. There is no weakness or shame in asking for help. There is strength in allowing others to help us.
Take care of yourself – it is important to be gentle with yourself at times like this. Don’t expect too much. Do things that make you feel good, get a healing massage, read an uplifting book, give yourself time to reflect, be still and recover, rather than simply trying to push through or work harder so you don’t have to think about it.
Change the energy in your home – since you and your home are so closely connected, any changes you make to the energy in your home have a direct and immediate impact on your own energy. Here are a few examples:
- Purge – pick an area in your home and remove items from it that you no longer need, use, want or love. Removing items that no longer have current value helps to free up your energy, as well as making the space for new and positive people and experiences to come into your life.
- Organize – nothing makes you feel better than de-cluttering and organizing. It’s one of the fastest ways to uplift your energy and will benefit you much more than simply making the space look nice.
- Move things around – move some furniture, change out accessories or pictures. Sometimes just moving the energy around in your home can be just what you need to give your energy and your life a much needed boost.
- Introduce color – this can also have an immediate impact on how you feel. Choose vibrant, rich colors, such as red, to energize you or calm, soothing colors, such as blue or green to bring calm energy. Choose colors that you love and that make you feel really good.
- Treat yourself and your home – buy a special item that you love for your home. It could be a piece of furniture or a painting, or it could be as simple as new dinnerware or a special cup for you to have your daily cup of tea or coffee. Honoring yourself in this way with something that you love can give you and your home a much-needed boost and help you realize that you deserve the best.
These are some simple ways to help you through those times in life that don’t feel so good. Since they are a fact of life and you know you will go through them from time to time, it’s best to be prepared and know that you have the tools available to help you.
Linda Binns
Tags: Feng Shui Balance, Feng Shui Home, Feng Shui Life, Feng Shui Success
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